To each his/her own.

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The power to forgive is entirely up to the person who needs to forgive.  Whether it be forgiving a fault of others, an act against you, or simply forgiving yourself, you are the only one that can make the decision to do it.

Walking around with unforgiveness is nothing more then setting yourself up for even more pain and suffering, but this time brought about at your own hand.   I know first hand how difficult it can be to forgive someone, especially when you want to take your pound of flesh for whatever happened to you.  I also know that the only way to ever get past what might have happened is to turn the other cheek and allow Karma to do it's thing.

It's not always easy to forgive.  It's not always easy to look at the perpetrator and realize that something was going on that caused them to act in whatever fashion they chose to act.  You've all heard the saying that "men in glass houses should not throw stones."  So let me ask you this simple question:  are you completely faultless in your life?  Has there never been a time when you may have lashed out at someone because of anger?  Said something that ought not have been said?  Held that grudge simply because it brought you comfort or a little satisfaction?  Face it, we've all done these things, and we've all been in a position to need forgiveness from others. If you ever want to be forgiven for the things you have done, then isn't it only right that you choose to forgive those who have come against you?

I have found over the years that forgiveness comes much easier to those who have a solid foundation of knowledge as to who and what they are.  This comes about by taking the time to understand your divinity, your greatness, and your birth rights.  This may come as a shock to many, but living in a bubble, always wondering why bad things are happening to you, is nothing more then a lack of understanding of your true self.  In a recent seminar that I held I tried to lay a foundation for those in attendance that talked about knowing the real you.  Not the you that others depict you as, not the you that others expect you to be, but the you that was established the moment of your birth.  Until such time as you own your own uniqueness, my guess is you will have to deal with unforgiveness in your life.  Trust me, that is not a good thing.

When an individual can come to grips with their own power, their own beauty, and their own destiny, then I will tell you that offering and extending forgiveness is quite easy.  Holding on to a grudge is never going to change what has happened.  If you are unable to let go of things, then those things will control you until you die.  Forgiveness sets both you and the one who committed the deed free.

Are there things in your life right now that you have not found the ability to let go of?  I've heard stories of individuals who have been fighting for years and years, and after twenty of so years have forgotten what the transgression was that started the whole kerfuffle.  What a travesty to allow all those years go by simply because you were unable to look past it and extend to someone else the grace that you expect to be extended to you.  I've also known people who have picked up the offense of others.  I know how easy it is to have sympathy for others.  To see what has happened to them and want to lash out at the ones who had the nerve to treat them in such a fashion.  It's as if you want to fight their battles for them.  I guess you might say this is the honorable thing to do, but trust me it is the wrong thing to do.  Instead of picking up their offense, why not teach them who they are and provide them with the ability to get over the offense themselves.  There is such dynamic power that will come to you when you realize just how great and divine you are.  Those things that used to drive you nuts, no longer have a hold on you.  That being said, passing this knowledge on to others will also allow them to get past whatever might have happened to them.

You will only be able to forgive others to the degree that you are able to forgive yourself.  You will only be able to forgive yourself when you have a handle on who and what you are.  You will only get to know the real you when you are able to understand that you are indeed divine and your creation was meant to be.  It is time to drop the victim mentality and accept your greatness.   Once you are able to do that, then most of what used to drive you crazy will no longer have a hold on you.  You will be able to turn the other cheek and extend the grace and forgiveness to others that will ultimately change the face of this planet.

We each have to make the decision how we will handle different situations, but a word to the wise:  forgiveness is yours to give and extend, and when you can do that you will see things clearer then ever before, and you will walk freer then you have ever walked before.  It is up to you what you will do with this new ability to forgive, but maybe, just maybe you can help others do the same thing.  Forgiveness is key, and it is the key to you being the person you were always intended to be.