If Life is a Journey, why go it alone?

Greetings from a Bright Sunny Maine Wednesday!! Well bright for the moment, the weatherman says getting cloudy by mid-day and rain through out the night. All I can say is at least it isn't snow. So not ready for winter to be here, but it's coming so might as well get used to it. Funny thing, it happens every year and yet every year I hope against hope that it isn't a tough winter. I think it may be time to look for a warmer climate to spend my winters.

I had a conversation with a very good friend of mine last night. He is in the middle of trying to find another job, as his current position is not cutting it. I have known him for almost 30 years, and he is one who could leave for ten years and when we pick back up on the conversation it is like it has only been a matter of days since we last talked. Now that is the type of friendship we all need. If you don't have a friend like this, you might consided looking for one or forming a friendship so you can have it. As I have said so many times before "If life is a journey , why go it alone?" Live is too short and too difficult to go it alone without having support people at your side giving inspiration and assistance when needed or asked for. As I was saying my friend and I were talking last night and I proceeded to talk about my passion for speaking to groups about Destiny. Over the last few months the need to make a move has gotten stronger and stronger. I think we all get to a point when we have to decide do I stay where I am at and feel like life is passing me by, or do I take the leap of faith and jump into the water with both feet? I spend quite a bit of time thinking about past jobs that I have had, and what I was feeling while performing at those jobs. It is tough when you know you have the ability to do a job and yet you always seem to be a day late and a dollar short. I think it comes down to doing what you were created to do. Anything else is always going to seem anti-climatic and total success will always be a finger tip away. It's almost as though you are dabbling the carrot in front of the horse. He can see the carrot, go after the carrot, but no matter what he does, never seems to be able to get to that damn carrot.

I know what I am supposed to be doing and I think I am finally at that point in my life where I can no longer sit on the sidelines and just watch the game. I need to be actively involved with this game, and show others that I have what it takes to compete at the highest level. Now don't get me wrong, I have lots of learning to still do in my life. I find that anytime I get an answer to a question I have a dozen other questions that need answers. But I have also discovered that doing what makes you happy, doing what you were born to do, doing what you know inside is the right thing for you, is really the only way to live life. Anything short of that will always make you feel as though you are missing something, and feeling like you are missing something all the time will eventually drive you nuts. I for one am tired of always feeling like the best is yet to come. I want the best now and I want to ride this horse until it bucks me off.

There are so many people out there today who feel the same way I feel, and they are in need of words of support, comfort, and inspiration. They have what it takes to be successful. They have a knowing inside of them that they can accomplish what is in their heart, but what they don't have is someone cheering for them on the sidelines. They have an understanding of what they want to do, but like so many of us get wrapped around the wagon wheel and thereby become mired down in the fears and dread of the unknown. You need to know that you are in good company. Many of the most successful people in business today have been exactly where you are t right at the moment. They were fortunate enough to have someone who spoke life to them. Words of encouragement, affirmation, support are worth more than any amount of money. Now let me say this to those who think their best days are behind them and have given up on ever accomplishing the things that are deep within their heart. I don't know of anyone who has achieved everything that is in their heart. It may not be for a lack of trying, but simply because they haven't had the opportunity or maybe it's because they haven't tried. Whichever scenario you fall into, and there may be numerous other scenarios that play out, but no matter where you fall, don't ever give up on your dreams. Destiny is just that, it is that one thing that you were born to accomplish, and I dare say that until you are walking in your destiny you will always have those feelings of empitness. I have known may successful people. People who have created large companies, made tons of money, and yet still walk around empty. Why? Because they are not walking in their destiny. Ladies and Gentlemen, destiny is not something you can walk away from. Well I guess you can walk away from it, but at what cost. You will forever wonder how things could have been, what you could have accomplished, and who you could have helped along the way. Success is not having the biggest house, the most money, great influence, or any of the other stuff that society has described as pictures of success. Success is walking in your destiny. Destiny is not measure by the square footage of your home, the horsepower of your car, or the size of your bank account. Destiny is measure in your knowing that you are at the right place at the right time, doing what it is that you were born to do. If you are walking in your destiny then it doesn't matter about the size of your home, the horsepower of your car or the size of your bank account. Destiny is waking up each morning with a smile on your face know that you get to do it all over again. Destiny is knowing that you would do what you are doing even if you never made one red cent. Destiny is what brings joy to your life, a smile on your face, and a skip in your step. Destiny is what we all should be looking toward and never accept anything less. When it's all said and done destiny is who we are, what we desire and what others need from us.

I want to have a company where others have the opportunity to grow and come to an understanding of their destiny. A company where my primary focus is equipping others to walk in their destiny, thereby preparing the way for them to help others achieve their destiny. Yes it is paying it forward, but for me there is no other option. I am at the point in my life where my focus needs to be in getting you to focus. I am at a point in my life where my success will only be measured by your level of success. I am a point in my life where my needs are secondary to the needs of others. I look forward to the coming months as I step out and accomplish the things that I was created to accomplish. I look forward to finally being totally happy in what I am doing and not feeling as though I have to measure myself against others who are not the same as me, and I am different than them. I am ready to tackle the world and see how others are going to benefit from what I do. Get ready for a wild ride, and let's enjoy the next phase of life together.

I promise you it will not be dull.

True Destiny, If life is a journey why go it alone?

It's one of those days when the mind is running at warp speed and the thoughts are coming at such a rapid rate, I hardly know where to begin, and yet not sure what to write. Have you ever had one of those days when you know what you want to do, know what you need to do, and yet you haven't the foggiest notion of how to get from point A to point B? This has been a crazy week as I have had to crunch five days work into three as I took a day off Tuesday to work the polls on election day and tomorrow is Veteran's Day and the office is closed. I guess there is no rest for the weary. But let's give the Ole College try and see if I can't put down some coherent thoughts for all of you to enjoy, or maybe just ponder.

Having just come through a normal election cycle here in Maine I was thinking about some of the things I have seen over the last few days. Some things surprised me, others didn't. I would like to tell you I have seen it all, but alas, there are some things that come to light from time to time that even surprise me the ultimate skeptic. As I mature, that's a polite way of saying getting older, but as I mature I look at things a little differently then I once did. There are things that drive me crazy. Intolerance being at the top of the list. I had the opportunity to sit at the polls this past Tuesday collecting signatures on a State wide petition to get Same-Sex Marriage on the ballot next November in the general election. First off let me say how sad I am that we are having to fight this fight again. When our State Legislature was brave enough to pass the law and our then Governor, John Baldacci, showed equal bravery by signing this legislation into law, we thought that we had finally been recognized as being worthy of marrying the person we loved. How short lived our excitement was, but we knew this was going to happen and we were prepared for the inevitable. Unfortunately when it went to the polls in 2008 we lost and once again became second class citizens. Now fast forward to 2011 and once again we are collecting signatures to get his measure back on the ballot. It is my desire that this is the last time we will ever have to do this. But this segways into one of my topics of conversation today, the intolerant right, and the ignorance they display. If I hear one more politician talk about the morals of this country and how same-sex marriage means the end of the morals of this country I will look for the first bridge to throw them off of. To be so ignorant to think that only a marriage between a man and a women is morally right undermines the entire fabric of our society. Gee at a 50 plus percent divorce rate in this country, the hetero population has done a crack up job in this department. And yet, these are the same people who refuse me my right to marry the man I love. Now don't get me wrong, I am not fool enough to think that Same-sex couples are immune to the pitfalls of marriage. Sure there will be divorce in the gay community just like the straight community. But the big difference is that straight people at least have the right to seek a divorce from a marriage they are not happy in. We don't even have the right to enter into a marriage that we may or may not be happy in.

Would someone please show me in the United States Constitution where it says that marriage is only between a man and a women. Can anyone show me in the United States Constitution where marriage between a Same-sex couple undermines the fabric of our society. And finally, can anyone is this country show me in the United States Constitution where it says we have the right to take away the rights of any citizen of this country simply because we want to marry someone of our own sex. Folks, it's not there!!!!! No where does any of this appear in our constitution. And somehow a segment of our population is so threatened by us that they will do anything to deny us our rights to live, love, and be an American, just because our partner happens to be the same sex. And let me get this off my chest, this is not about "SEX", it's about love, nothing more, nothing less. It has never been about sex, not now, not ever.

When we lost the election I overheard two ladies talking the next day. They were so excited that the Same-sex law was overturned. When I say excited, that was an understatement. They were giddy with excitement. So being the instigator that I am, I approached them and asked what was bringing them so much joy. I knew what it was, but I was going to play Micky the Dunce and see if I couldn't get them to display their true ignorance. So I asked them to explain and they said that they had won, and I asked "Won What?". "Oh We won, we won the election" Ok me being a little slow on the uptake, or at least that is what I wanted to portray I had to ask again, "Won What?". She proceed to say that the state had just turned over the law allowing same-sex marriage. "Oh" I said, "So what does that Mean?". As I said that appearing to them like a deer in a headlight, they began to take on the same demeanor. I said to them,"just what did you win?". In true idiotic fashion she went on to say yet again "We won". It was about this time that I felt I was dealing with a third grader so I put on my best Third Grade Teacher's voice and asked "So what does that mean?" I don't think she was able to comprehend the point I was trying to make, so I decided to spell it out to hear and speak in very simple words that even she could not mistake. I told her "you have won nothing, because nothing has changed. We did not have the right to marry before and we still don't have the right. We are still here living, working, and paying taxes in our community. We still have family and loved ones in each school, working in each company, and attending different activities around our community. " At this point I think the point I was trying to make finally was beginning to set in. If I could have had a camera to take a picture of her face at the moment in time when she realized that nothing had changed, that picture would have been worth a million dollars. Ladies and Gentlemen I am praying that I never have to have this discussion again. I am hoping that the fine people of Maine have finally gotten to the point where this issue is no longer a dividing one. I am hoping against hope that I never have to sit at the polls and collect signatures again to get the right to marry the man I love. And I so hope that some ignorant person does not have the nerve to say that I am not morale because I have fallen in love with a wonderful man. I will no longer tolerate this type of intolerance just like I will not tolerate intolerance in any form. Ladies and Gentlemen the gloves are coming off and it is time to take no prisoner's. You have, the religious intolerant, the far right zealots, the gay bashers, how ever you want to call them, you have pissed me off and from here on out the fight is on. I will have the right to marry my partner in my own state and not have to cross borders to do it. Let me be me and you can be you. After all I haven't gone anywhere and shy of you killing me I am still going to be here right next door to you, still loving my partner and still being a citizen of this state. Get ready to rumble, I will not back down.

True Destiny, If Life is a journey why go it alone?

What a wild last few days. I had the privilege of attending an Expo this past Friday and had a wonderful conversation with a young lady about her Destiny. The conversation was so full of energy that I could hardly contain myself. During this event I had the opportunity to speak to numerous people about my book, and each of them was so inspired, that I walked away with a renewed purpose and finally had to realize that the time has come to get his damn book published and out to the public so they can experience it. I have been doing quite a bit of soul searching the last few months. Now most of you who have taken the time to read this blog know what my goals and desires are. I want to be the Pied Piper of Destiny. The desire to see everyone walk in their destiny is what drives and motivates me. There is nothing in this world that I would rather be doing then encouraging people to discover their destiny and feel the elation of walking in it. To that end I have come to some conclusions that have been a long time coming, but as they say better late than never. I was at a Networking event on Thursday and ran into a Life Coach who really forced me to look at where I was and what I wanted to do. She forced me to look at my situation and the old adage came to the forefront "Physician Heal thyself". I have been so focused on helping others achieve their destiny, that I have let mine take a back seat but the time has come to put it to the front of the line. My failure to put me first, although done with good intentions, has in fact made it impossible for others to listen to my story and thereby walkout their destiny. Now that was an eye opener, and I had to take pause and realize that I was wrong in doing it.

I have also come to the conclusion that there is no time like the present to press forward and begin to put into place the dreams that reside inside of me. In doing this now, I will be able to help others realize their dreams and help them begin to walk them out. I was thinking about all that I want to accomplish and why I want to accomplish it. I was also thinking about the countless people out in the world who are still mired down in jobs they hate, situations that are taking them down to the pit of despair, and lives that seem to be dark and lonely. God that is a miserable place to be, and having been there numerous times in my life, I would do anything to get people out of it.

Ok so let me focus for a moment and see if I can't bring some clarity to what I am trying to say. Stagnation and complacency are killers. It can kill a dream faster than poo poo through a goose. I for one never want to be stuck in one place too long. Now don't get me wrong, there are times when we need to step back and have some time just to smell the coffee. But there are people out there who haven't moved in years. They are frozen in fear and uncertainty. They know they need to do something different, but there is something that keeps them planted without the ability to move forward. It is these people who need to hear the message of destiny. It is these people who need to be uplifted and shown the way. It is these people who need a word of encouragement and a pat on the back that says things will be fine and there is hope, ever increasing hope for the future and for their dreams to come into being. Nothing worse then laying on your death bed and you go through the "Should of, could of, would of". Life is too short not to tackle your dreams and go after what truly makes you happy.

I spoke earlier of the conversation that I had with this young lady about what she truly has in her heart to accomplish. This young lady is a lawyer and yet her passion rest in the area of Animal Activism. Now that is something that the rest of the world would most likely look at and think what a waste of an education. Well sure you can think that, but I rather think that it is a waste of life not to go after the dreams in your heart, and education be damned. I would rather be active in an area of passion than be bogged down in a job that brings me no joy, excitement, or feeling of accomplishment. When it's all said and done we only have one life, and life is too important not to go after all that is in our heart to do. Might I suggest that now is the time to think hard on what is important to us, and go after it with all we have inside of us. I would rather work in an area that brings me satisfaction and feelings of worth, then work a position simply because it brings in vast amounts of money. Money can not by happiness, but working in a job that brings joy and happiness is worth more than all the money in the world.

We need to take a good look at what makes us truly happy and settle for nothing less. It's time we put our dreams out for all to know, and maybe someone will step up and ask you how they can help you achieve your dreams. I know that my desire is to help everyone achieve their dreams. If I never made a cent helping someone achieve a level of success, that would be fine with me. The satisfaction of helping someone discover their destiny is priceless to me. The ability to help someone achieve a long desired dream is what makes me smile each and every day. The ability to walk with someone in their destiny is what we all should be striving for.

It's never too late to change. It's never to late to start over, and it's never to late to go after your dreams. Begin today to understand that you have the right to have your hearts desires. Only you can stop you from getting where you want to be. Never give up and never say never.