Loving me is loving you.

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They say that music is the universal language.  I'd like to believe that love is the universal unifier.  Love is something that many look for all of their lives, and yet few people are able to really live love because they find it so hard to love themselves.  It seems to me that loving who and what you are should be so simple and yet it seems that so many, many people are unable to do this. Why is that so?

I want to spell out some of the impediments to self love, and maybe dispel some of the myths of self love.  Sadly some people feel that self love is nothing more than conceit.  Loving who and what you are is not conceit; in actuality it is imperative if you are ever going to fully walk in your destiny and be the one thing you were always intended to be.  I've said this so many times in the past but today I will say it again in an attempt to get you to really let it sink in.  If you are unable to love yourself then you will never ever be able to love someone else 100 percent, nor will you be able to receive someone else's love 100 percent.  One of the reasons I'm able to love our dog Lucy so much is because she only knows unconditional love.  When she gives me all of her love it's impossible for me not to love her back.  Unconditional love is just that, unconditional.  Lucy does not love me because of what I do for her, except when she knows a treat is coming, then the tail really starts to wag, but I digress.  She loves unconditionally because that is her nature.  What is your nature when it comes to love?  Sadly many people base their understanding of love on past love, or lack thereof.  How you love is never ever going to be able to be measured by the love you have experienced in life.  Love has to be based on your own love for you.  I'll say it again, you have to love you, I mean really love you, then and only then will you be able to experience real love from someone else.

I love my husband unconditionally.  Certainly there are days when I want to wipe him off the face of the earth, as I am human, but the love I have for him is endless.  Some say we are soul mates, I agree, but even soul mates have to know true self love to give true love, and that all starts with recognizing the real you.  I may be repeating the same thing over and over again, but the key to this whole thing we call love is looking yourself in the mirror each day and telling yourself how much you love you.  At first this simple exercise may seem trivial and ridiculous, but I assure you it will start something that will change your life.  After so many years I can finally say I love me.  I fought feelings of regret in the past.  I rolled around in a pit of despair in regards to how I saw my future.  There was even a time when I wanted to simply fall asleep at night and not wake up the next morning.  I know that during these moments I was not loving who I was, and that is a dangerous place to be.  I love me more now than ever before.  It has taken me years to get to this point, but I will tell you that my life has changed.

Many times I get the question of how do you love yourself?  The first step is to  understand the significance of your being.  You need to accept that your design is perfection because you being here right now is in the perfection of the universe.  You are not here by mistake.  If you can accept the premise of your perfection then you can start accepting that you are love, created out of love and for the purpose of giving and accepting love.  The intention of the Universe brought you here and it is in this intention that you must live.  Living in intention is what love is all about, and this love is what will allow you to love unconditionally and loving unconditionally will teach you to love yourself.

Our worth is not in what we have obtained in life, or what we have accomplished.  Our worth is in fact who and what we are.  Once you understand the significance of your own being, then and only then can you love who you are, and then you can receive love from others.  "Loving me is loving you" is a statement.  It says that when I love me I can love you.  There is no other way to live, if living is what you truly desire.  When you look into that mirror what do you see?  If you see all your past hurts, or failures, you are not seeing the real you.  Past hurts and failures are lessons that should have taught you something.  Look past the past and see who you really are.  If you can begin to love you simply because you are you, then and only then will you experience the love that is there for you.

I love me because I want and desire to love others, and receive love from others.  Love is the center of all that we are, all that we hope to be, and all that we should be focused on.  If you can love yourself unconditionally then you can change the world.  Experiencing true love begins with you.  Knowing true love is knowing that I am love, and knowing that I am love allows me to love you and experience true love to the fullest extent possible.  If you want to experience the warm and fuzzies of love then wrap your arms around yourself and tell yourself how much you love you.  When you can see all of your greatness then you will begin to see the greatness in others.  You were not placed here to be alone, but being alone is what you will experience until such time as you accept your own love for you.  Life is great as long as you understand your own greatness.  It's never too late to turn things around.  Begin to see what is reflected back at you from the mirror and love what you see.  You are one of a kind, and no one can do what you were created to do.  It all begins with love because your beginning was because of love.