True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

One holiday down and two to go. I hope everyone had a fantastic Thanksgiving, and that you are all looking forward to the next month of festivities that are sure to fill your calendar in the days ahead. I for one have been in a very contemplative mood over the last few weeks. It's not that life has taken that much of a different course from the usual, but there are times when we just take pause to think things through and try to grasp the nature of things to come. For those that know me, I am a visionary. I see big things, and although that is good from time to time it can also cause tremendous anxiety. I have in my heart the desire to see everyone walk in their destiny. When I speak of destiny I am talking about those things that people have buried deep in their heart, and given the chance to walk in it would do it in a tinker's minute. Have you ever wanted something so bad in your life and somehow you just can't think of how to get there or how to do what it is that you want to do? It doesn't matter what life has thrown at you, or how impossible situations may seem, deep down in your being you know you are supposed to be doing something, and that something is leading toward your destiny.

It is this destiny that I want to walk in, and it's that destiny that I desire each of you to walk fully in. I am an extremely emotional person. Compassion should be my middle name. I love to people watch. Put me in the middle of a mall with my cup of Earl Gray tea with 8 Splenda and I am a happy camper. I will look at someone and wonder what phase of life they are in and are they were they want to be, planned to be, or hoped to be. Has life been good to them, or have they fallen victim to the many hazards of every day Life? I can't explain the desire inside of me to help others find their destiny and be what they were intended to be from the moment of their birth. I think my anxiety level rises when I feel I am not equipped to take on such a huge challenge, and yet the desire inside of me is something that cannot be quenched. Now I have many talents, and no I am not bragging by any stretch of the imagination. I just know that I have the ability to motivate people through my speech, and unlike so many others, have the gift of gab. I can remember many many years ago laying in bed one night crying out to God to know what it is that I was good at. I was always told that everyone is good at something. The key to life is figuring out what that something is and move on it. I was never the best athlete. I wasn't the smartest kid in school, although I am fairly intelligent, but that is a story for another day. Suffice it to say that being overly intelligent is not always a great thing, especially when coupled with a critical/judgmental attitude. It has taken me years to overcome that fault. During this brief but heart felt conversation with God, I finally figured out that my greatest talent was that of an orator. I love to captivate an audience with my words, and love to inspire others. Inspiration can move mountains, and many people are facing mountains when it comes to accomplishing what is in their heart. If I had a dollar for every tear I have shed over the last twenty years while feeling alone, left out, unappreciated, untalented, I could wipe out the federal deficit. I have known low periods in my life, I wish I could say different, but that wouldn't be my style. I have thought about suicide, and I know I am not the only one to have done this. One of the toughest parts about life is wanting to do something and not knowing how to get it done or even how to start doing it. It creates feelings of worthlessness and you feel as though you are the only person on the face of the earth having these feelings. It is a terrible place to be and one that I hope I never have to navigate again. If you are in this place right now, and many are, don't give up hope and know there are people out there ready and able to lend a helping hand. Sometimes a simple request for help is all you have to do to get the assistance you need.

Let me leave you with this final thought for the day; the sun will rise again tomorrow! There will be days when the sun may be behind clouds and we can't see it, but rest assured it is out there. Simply because you can't see something doesn't mean it's not there. We have faith that the sun will shine tomorrow, it is the same faith that says you will walk in your destiny. When times come where you are doubting your existence, your abilities, your gifting, remember that the sun will rise again tomorrow. You can't stop it, can't really explain it, but you know it will happen. That my friend is destiny, I can't stop mine, you can't stop yours. Remember, If life is a journey, why go it alone? Think about it......

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

I will be taking the next couple of days off for the Thanksgiving Holiday, so today will be my Thanksgiving Blog. I guess it is customary to talk about all the things that we are thankful for, after all that is what this holiday is all about. I really don't want to bore you with all the details in my life. Suffice it to say I am thankful for so much, and will continue to think about them not only tomorrow but every day of the year.

I was laying in bed last night trying to come up with a clever song like the Night before Christmas. You know twas the night before Thanksgiving and all through the house....well you get the point. Unfortunately my song writing ability, especially at two in the morning, lacks a little something. Tomorrow is indeed one of my favorite holidays because I get to Christmas up my house and for the next 30 or so days surround myself with the Christmas spirit, peace on earth goodwill toward men. I would like to think that most of us have that spirit throughout the entire year, but there are some real scrooges out there, and we all know a few. But today is a day to reflect on the many blessings each of us have, and how important they are to us. I remember growing up in upstate New York and how much I looked forward to watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade on television. I have wanted to see it live and yet have never made the trek to NYC to do it. Maybe I will have the opportunity some day. Anyway Thanksgiving at out house was always a big deal, and later on in life it was a time that my family would have a house full of friends over to enjoy a great meal and just relax and be together.

No matter what your plans are for tomorrow reach out to those you love and let them know you are thankful to have them in your life and that their presence in your life is what makes life count. We are creatures that need the personal connect time with others. WE may say we like our solitude from time to time, I know I do, but on a day like this family is what is most important. Your contact my come in the form of a phone call or maybe just a text to an old friend or acquaintance. Whatever your mode of communication reach out and share your love with them and tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life. When it's all said and done, those relationships are worth more than all the money and riches in this world. I would rather be penniless and have true friends and loved ones, then have all the money in the world and be alone and not knowing true love.

I want to extend my best wishes to each of you for what is sure to be a great holiday season. May this year bring answers to prayer, opportunities to those who are in need, and love that is so unmeasured you can hardly believe it. Reach out to those who are in need of a special touch and give them the best part of you, your love and understanding. Have a Blessed Thanksgiving and I will be back here on Monday, full from my meal and all the leftovers, and eager to bring more words of wisdom, understanding, and love.

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Ever have one of those days where you're just in a quirky mood? I mean one of those days where you are looking to get into some mischief and have all kinds of fun? One of those days where you want to pull every practical joke you can remember? I think you get my point. I got up this morning and realized that the day is what I make of it, and if it's going to be a good one, I have the responsibility to make it so. Everyone has walked around in darkness from time to time. Not knowing what direction to go in, and not having idea one of what to do next. There are days when we walk around in a daze just trying to figure out what is going on. I hate days like those, but love days like today. I woke up with a smile on my face, and a song in my heart. OK, maybe not a song in my heart, but my ipod was playing so I guess that's close enough.

I think my message to each of you today is don't give up, and just give in. Give in to the fun things in life. Maybe we need to take life a little less seriously and loosen up a bit. My god, I know people who are so uptight that if you stuck a piece of coal up their butt it would turn into a diamond. You know what I'm talking about!! Sure there is a time to be responsible; job, family, relationships. But there's also a time to throw caution to the wind and just let go. It's like that long ride up the roller coaster and as you reach the top you throw caution to the wind and raise the hands and scream like a little girl. For me, I hold tight, close my eyes, and then scream like a little girl. But heck we take the first ride and then we want to do it again. Eventually you let go of the bar, open your eyes, and yes scream like a little girl. Life is a lot like this roller coaster. We have an anticipation as we approach different events. We are a little scared and try as we might we aren't quite sure we want to let go of the bar. As we hit the top and start to go down we realize we're going to be OK, and this ride or situation is not so bad. Shoot, we actually are looking forward to doing it again.

Life's path has many twist, turns, curves, and loops; how we handle them is entirely up to you. Some people will run from them and do anything not to acknowledge their existence. Others will face each thrill and embrace it for the challenge it presents. There are no right or wrong ways to attack each challenge. You are only wrong when you refuse to face these issues and challenges, because both you and I know they are not going to just go away. If I could wish each challenge I have faced away, I would gladly have done that. I have had to face my share of challenges in life as you will, and there have been times where I have failed miserably, as you will also. However, the first step in tackling any challenge is acknowledging that they exist and knowing that you do have what it takes to overcome them.

Allow me to leave you with this last thought for the day; perseverance is not just sticking something out. Perseverance is letting others know that you will not be limited by insurmountable odds. It's not walking away from a lousy situation, or denying it is looking you right in the face. Perseverance is standing when you feel you have nothing left to stand for. It is speaking to your situation and telling it to go straight to hell. You have what you need to persevere, every thing you need. I know for a fact that I have wanted to quit in the past, but something inside of me would not allow it. There are times when we need to pick ourselves up by the boot straps and surge ahead come hell or high water. When all else fails, simply try something else. You know what I always say, "It's never over until I say it is." Think about it....

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

It's Thanksgiving week and already plans are in full swing for the holiday week. Grocery stores are jammed packed with turkeys flying out of the coolers quicker than Grant went through Richmond. How I love this time of year. I have learned that I never plan a trip to any store if I am trying to fit it in between events or appointments. I will always get in the one check out line with price checks, angry customers, or every other time waster one can imagine. No, I go when I have nothing else on my plate and I can just relax and watch people. I figure it's not worth increasing the acid in my stomach by trying to get something on the fly. Not worth it, not worth it one little bit. LOL

This is the time of year that we look back and remember the things we are grateful for and we begin to look toward the future and wonder what's in store for us. I've been through so many changes over the last few years I hardly know where to begin. I was not always thankful during those difficult times of change, but having come through it, I can now see the benefits it has brought to me. Change is never easy, at least for me it hasn't been, but it is necessary from time to time. I look at my life and wonder where the years have flown off to, and yet I have an expectation of the future that seems so bright and full of life that I can hardly contain the joy and excitement. I look at others and wonder what's going on in their minds. Are they where they're supposed to be, doing what they're supposed to be doing, and most importantly are they happy with the person they have become.

I am cursed! Not cursed in a bad way, at least I don't feel it as being bad, but cursed none-the-less. I am cursed with compassion, compassion that more often than not controls my life in ways that I never thought possible. I hardly go though a day where I don't think of other's needs and wants, and wish I could meet every one of them. I can be minding my own business and look at someone and wonder "are you happy at this very moment". I've always had dreams of being Superman, able to be there to help others and to right the world of evil, corruption, hurt, and pain. Is it because I am better than anyone else? Absolutely not, I have faults and shortcomings that outnumber the stars in the heavens. I do however have an unfailing desire to make this world a better place one person at a time. People who know me also know that my charge in life is to put a smile on at least one person's face each day. Sometimes this task is an easy one and sometimes it's like pulling teeth. It is a task that I cherish and am so thankful that I get an opportunity to complete it each and every day of my life.

As we approach the Thanksgiving Holiday, do yourself one huge favor. Take a look at where you are now as opposed to where you were ten years ago, and where you will be ten years from now. If you haven't moved an inch, and you don't plan on moving, maybe it's time for that change we have talked about. Moving ahead in life is not saying that what you are doing right now is wrong or incorrect. It's not saying that because you are moving forward that success has not followed you. No, on the contrary, it's saying that moving forward will open up other opportunities to be what you're supposed to be and maybe just maybe help someone else obtain something special in their life.

We live to make this world a better place, for ourselves, for others, and for humanity. One person can change the world. I refuse to believe that this is as good as it gets. If I have to be a one man army of change then so be it, but why not join the ranks and lets march forward and change our planet.. There are hurting people all around us who need what you have inside of you. It's time to change the world and in doing so maybe change a little bit in ourselves. Think about it......

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

As Linda Ellerbee used to say "And so it goes". Life goes on one day at a time, loaded with ups and downs. I like to say that some days you're the windshield and some days you're the bug. No matter what life throws at you, expected or unexpected, each of us has what it takes to come out victorious. There are going to be days when victory is the farthest thing from your mind. Survival is a much better descriptor for many people today. We are living in a time where people are walking around hopeless, not knowing how they will pay the rent or mortgage, robbing Peter to pay Paul. It's a vicious cycle, and you hear screams "Stop the world I want to get off". I have been there before and I'm sure will be there again. It is during these times that we need to have faith and believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I would like to believe that things that don't kill us, will ultimately make us stronger. Now it's hard to remember that when we are in the midst of our struggles. I for one have cried out to stop the madness, that I've had enough, and I don't want to play anymore. Equally as important, I have had times where I have known total peace of mind, joy, happiness, and tranquility. I will say that the latter is far and above the better place to be. That is a no brainer!

For those of you that are struggling with the up and downs of life know there is a story book ending to your strife and fears. It is in these times of toil that we need to dig deep and know the destiny that resides in every one of us. A destiny that was formed before you were born. A destiny that represents who and what you are supposed to be. You can not change destiny. Sure you can alter its outcome and you can delay it, but destiny is and always will be yours. Yours to own, yours to embrace, and yours to look on with wonder and amazement. Destiny should put a smile on your face every time you think about it. It should encourage you, excite you, and put a skip in your step as you walk toward it. These are not just sugar coated words. I can not and will not give up on my destiny and neither should you.

I was having a phone interview yesterday and I was asked the question if I thought that everyone has the ability to work. There are people today who are disabled, have afflictions that may seemingly stop them from working, or simply are not equipped for a particular function. My response to the interviewer was an emphatic yes. Now there may need to be some modifications to the workplace, or procedural elements, but yes everyone has the ability to work. We may have to incorporate some ingenuity to get things done, but ingenuity is what made this country great. Necessity is the mother of invention, and there is no reason not to expect that we can work things out so others can work. As a believer in possibilities, both large and small, I look to the future and think it looks bright. A future full of promise. A future that is sure to have it's high points and low points, but in the end destiny will find a home. I encourage you to look to the future. Don't forget the past, but don't let the past pin you in a corner. Too many times we look at the past and fear settles in and we feel it will always repeat itself. Learn from past mistakes and move ahead with full force. You have all you need to be successful. Step into life and out of the darkness that has hindered you in the past. There is no time like the present, and the future has great things in store for you, simply believe. Think about it.......

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

It has been quite the roller coaster ride for me these last few days. I thought it might have been caused by something I ate, but after some quiet reflection I determined that I was just going through another growth spurt. I once thought that change was the only constant in the universe; that was up until a few days ago and added to that constant list was uncertainty. We all have periods of uncertainty in our lives, me included. I'd like to think that I am fairly level headed and sure of my abilities and desires. However, these last few days I have gone through the ringer to say the least. Some of the things that I was sure were true and non-changing all of a sudden became unclear and lacked focus. I 'm writing this today to let you know that you're not alone in your struggles. We all have struggles that need to be looked at daily and there are days when you just can't seem to get started and before you know it you're behind in the race and the finish line seems like an eternity away. If you are going through a period such as this you're in good company.

We all have periods in our life when times are tough, and we don't have a clear picture of where things are going. It's during these times that we need to reach out to those special people in our lives who have proven themselves to be trustworthy and reliable and seek out wise council and advice. I have often said that life is a journey and there is no reason to go it alone. During troubled times it gives one comfort to know that there are people out there who care for you and love you and only want the best for you. Talk to them and get the help they offer. I'm also prone to say that the only shame is when you dismiss the help being offered or don't ask for help when it's really needed. No one has ever reached the top of their field or career without the help of others. Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and others will all tell you that they had help, and lots of it. I would like to think that I never let pride get in the way of seeking out help when I really needed it. Oh sure there have been times when I wanted to prove something to myself and took on a challenge all alone. There have also been times when the challenge was far bigger than expected and I had to accept help from others. Getting the help you need is not a shortcoming, far from it. Asking for help is a sign of maturity. Any idiot can try to do it all alone, and then sit down and cry when things don't go according to plan or fall apart in front of their eyes.

I encourage each of you to look back on situations in your life and see if seeking out assistance from others wouldn't have made things a little easier, and dare I say a little more fun. After all life should be filled with joy and happiness, not dread and torment. Albeit that latter seems to be prevalent in so many lives today. There are no simple answers to some of life's more difficult questions. Things are not always as they seem and having a second set of eyes to look at that situation may be the smartest thing you have ever done. What's the old saying "we can't see the forest because of the trees"? There are times that we are so close to a situation that we can't see the solution. That second set of eyes can often provide a different perspective, and that is all we need at times to move ahead with plan of attack. Trust me when I tell you that I have been in more precarious situations than I would like to admit. Now many of them come at my own hand because of stupid decisions I made or my failure to heed the advice of wise friends and loved ones. I have never been much of the type to admit stubbornness, but it does run in the family. Take a hint from me, don't be stubborn and don't neglect the advise of others when offered. You don't need to take every bit of advise you get, but you should at least listen to it.

As you go through your day know that times will get better and sometimes they will get worse. It all depends on where you are on your journey called life. Never forget that life's trials and tribulations are great character builders and when it's all said and done you will walk victorious if you don't loose heart. Think about it.......

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

It's a typical Wednesday, well as typical as things can get in this crazy world. I was pondering a few of life's mysteries this morning, well pondering may not be the right adjective. As a matter of fact not sure I was even thinking about a mystery. Most of you have heard the term "Love is blind". Now there are several things that come to mind when I hear this statement. First, and this is in no particular order of priority, you love an ugly person. Now I'm not trying to be mean, but lets face it there are some less than beautiful people walking the planet. But with that said I also believe that there is someone for everyone and the chemistry between any two people is not up to me, but rather the power of the universe. Second, when we love we are sometimes blind to our own shortcomings or those of the person we love. I would Love to think that I have few if any shortcomings, but those that know me, know this not to be the case. I am flawed just like every other human being walking the planet. Difference is, I can admit my faults, unlike many people I know. Third, we forget about other issues when we are in love, because that love takes center stage, and the rest of the world is almost suspended in time, in what seems like suspended animation. We aren't really worried about other things, and the little trivial issues that used to stop us in our tracks seem pale in comparison to the love we feel for someone else.

Why am I writing about love today? That's a good question, and I hope to give you a good answer as soon as I can come up with one. I just happen to be in one of those moods where I feel like waxing eloquent. Well maybe I'm just in one of those moods. I think love is the glue that binds all things together, good, bad, or indifferent. You can not survive this life without love in your life. I don't care who you are, how good you think you are, or how much you have or want to accomplish. Nothing can be accomplished without the loving support of others. If you think it possible to exist without love, you are redunkalas. Let's see spell checker get that word right HaHa. We are creatures with feelings. Those feelings are what motivate us to do certain things. You can bet your sweet bippy, love can cause us to do certain things that we never thought possible. We've all heard the stories of moms who have displayed super human strength when their child was in a precarious situation. We become tongue tied when that special person walks up to us and instead of coming forth with an articulate statement we mumble and look like an idiot. First impressions can kill, I think in this case a "Do Over" is very warranted. Love causes so many feelings. There are times when we are lost in love, and the other problems we had seem to not exist. On the Other side of the coin, there are times that unrequited love can send us into a tail spin and even getting up in the morning is a challenge and a major task. Where ever you fall on the spectrum of love you will have to manage your situation. I am of the opinion that this emotion or feeling called love, has to be the deepest, most troublesome feeling there is. It can bring joy, happiness, and peace. It can also cause hurt, pain, and suffering. How can one thing hit so many different emotions, and in the end, we still want love and go after it with everything inside of us.

I have loved many people, but I have only been in love with a few. There is a huge difference between loving someone or something and being in love. It is hard to explain, and many on the other side of your love are also trying to figure out what you are doing at any given moment. Wouldn't it be great if we could get through this life not requiring love? All the trouble that love causes would never be an issue, and we could just go through life like a mindless robot. Come to think of it, I think I would rather take my chances on love and see what happens. I can not imagine a time in my life where I haven't benefited from the love of others, not felt a time when I haven't wanted to give my love to someone else. I am one who needs love in my life, if for no other reason that it gives me reason to get up every morning and do what I do.

If you are questioning the wisdom of love and how to either get it or get rid of it in your life, you are not alone. We all question love daily. Some ask why they don't have it, while others ask how did they get themselves into this mess. There are a million possibilities when it comes to love, and which one you will fall into is entirely up to you. Let me leave you with this one thought; we all need love. You may say you don't, but you do. Nothing in this world will ever make me believe otherwise. You may run from love, and others may run from your love. You may discover love in the most unexpected places, and from the least expected person. True love will find you whether you want it to or not. Open yourself up to the possibilities and let love fill you from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Love has changed lives. Love has toppled empires, and created kingdoms. Love, as I said before, is the glue that binds. Don't turn off your love receptors, and prepare yourself to receive all that you want and deserve.

Think about it......

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

What a day to be alive!! It's not that anything spectacular has happened, nor do I expect anything out of the ordinary to take place today. I guess the reason for my excitement is that I have an opportunity again today to bring a smile to some one's face and hope. Hope for a better tomorrow. Hope for dreams to come to fruition. Hope for a time of peace and happiness in a life full of dread and fear.

A very good and old friend of mine, who shall remain nameless has much difficulty during the holiday season. It might be stress, let's face it there are all types of pressures that manifest themselves during this time of year. We place so many expectations on ourselves and others to perform a certain way. Peace on Earth Goodwill toward Men; how many people haven't a clue what this really means. We head into this season hoping for the best, but regrettably expecting the worse. My friend will hold up by himself just to escape the pressure he feels this time of year. Maybe it's time to take a step back and really look at what this season means, and why we celebrate it. If anyone has been out shopping since the end of October you will undoubtedly see that all the holiday decorations have been put up in every mall, and shop of every size. The street hangers are out in force expressing the holiday spirit. Town squares have cleared out a spot for the city Christmas Tree, and soon you will hear the ringing bells on every corner and entrance to stores. It is an event that has taken place each year, same time, same channel. We have come to expect certain things this time of year, and I dare say we are never disappointed. Well disappointed may not be the best descriptor. We have come to understand what the merchandising efforts are and they never disappoint.

All ready television stations are running Christmas or Holiday movies 24/7. Now don't get me wrong. I love Christmas. I am very much a child during this period of the year. Truth be told I am a child pretty much the entire year, but this season gives me an excuse to really play up that part of my personality. I will have my Christmas tree up Thanksgiving night, and the house will be in full Christmas splendor by the end of Thanksgiving night. It is my custom, and I look forward to it each year. Here's the big difference with me; I truly believe in Peace on Earth Goodwill toward Men. I take extra time during this season to give from my heart. I have said this before, it's never the size or cost of a gift that counts, it is the thought behind the gift. For someone to care enough about me to give me a gift means the world to me. I could be a tiny rock in a box, and it is priceless as far as I'm concerned.

This will not be the last time I write about the holidays before the end of the year. It seems to be a topic of discussion each day, but as we approach the season that is my absolute favorite time of year, I'd like to think I bring light and perspective to those seeking it out. Let me take pause to make one clarifying point; whether you observe this season for the spiritual significance or simply because it is a holiday where families get together once a year. This is a season to forget about the materialism and think about what is important to you.

This time of year is not about how much money we need to spend on each other. It's not about the number of gifts wrapped up and ready to be passed out. It's not even whether you get to eat at the big people's table this year and not relegated to the little kids table. No, it is about love, peace, happiness, joy, and dare I say it, the future.

We all have a future. Many people have a hard time believing this, but that is because life has a way of slapping us in the face from time to time, but a future is there for everyone. As we enter this festive holiday season take time to reflect on all the good in your life and the value you bring to mankind just by being who you are. Your gifts and talents are in you to help others. They have been crafted and developed by each passing day and now is the time to step out of the norm and begin to give back. Let the best gift you give this year be the gift of yourself. You may not think you have a lot to offer, but that is only because you have not looked inside your heart and seen all the good that is in you. You have what others need, so start giving. It may start out as just a smile or simple greeting to a stranger, but that is just the beginning. Try it on for size and see if you don't turn it into a super value meal in just a few short moments. You will be changed forever and so will the ones you come in contact with. Think about it.....

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Another new week is upon us and we get to do things all over again. I had an interesting weekend and thought I might give you a birds eye view of it this morning. I had to make a few difficult decisions the last few weeks. Many of them had been churning inside me for quite some time and others were made as the opportunity presented itself, or in some instances didn't present themselves. Decisions are something that each of us face on a daily basis. Some as easy as what do I have for breakfast this morning? Others, well let's just say they take a little more thought then emptying a packet of oatmeal in a bowl, adding water, and throwing it into the microwave. Well deciding on which flavor is sometimes painful, but I digress. As I was saying I have had to come to some conclusions over the last few weeks and days. Some of my decisions have been "Life Changing", and I do not use that term lightly. Some of these decisions had been put off because I didn't want to face them, others were put off simply because they lacked the priority of others. Trust me when I say I prefer the simple decisions over the more difficult ones, often which lead to sleepless nights and loss of appetite.

It's not really necessary to spell out what these decisions are; somethings are better left unspoken. Suffice it to say I had hoped to dodge many of these decisions for a longer period of time, but alas they had to be looked at, so as I have often said "In for a penny, in for a pound". A dear friend of mine has warned me about using so many quirky sayings, but I love them, and often they describe what I am feeling or going through better then I could ever say, so use them I will. As I was saying, I had to make a series of decisions that not only affected me but others who are very close to me, and it would also impact their life as well as mine. Let me give you a little insight; when things only involve me, I will jump in with both feet and not worry about the consequences. However, when any decision affects others I am very careful to look at all the possibilities and will do whatever I can to limit any bad reaction my decision may have. Too many times people will jump to conclusions with a knee jerk reaction, not really taking time to see how their decision will affect others. This may be laziness on their part, or just an attitude that they don't care and are going to do what they want others be dammed.

Most decisions are laced with uncertainty. That uncertainty is there because there's an equal amount of fear in regards to the situations we face. If I take this road will it get me to my final destination? If I do this will that happen? If I don't do something will I ever get out of this mess? There is a myriad of things we face on a daily basis that has uncertainty wrapped all around it. I'd like to think that I have the ability to face this uncertainty, but I am no different than anyone else and often those feelings of doubt creep into my mind as well.

So to make a long story even longer, I had to make some decisions this past week. Decisions concerning relationships and love, career, and do I use crunchy peanut butter verses smooth in my famous peanut butter cookies. That last one was pretty simple, but a decision none-the-less. Like a lot of people I throw in some humor when I am in a difficult situation, breaks the tension, and sometimes you really need to break the tension don't you know? Oh if only life were as easy as deciding smooth verses crunchy. Anyone who says it is, is either walking around with their head buried in the sand, or so detached from reality that they believe that Santa is not real. I dare you to fight me on that one lol!!!

I am not one to take making a decision lightly especially when it affects others. I would no more hurt someone on purpose then walk into a bank with a loaded gun shouting "put your hands up and give me all your money. " I just don't function that way, and people's feelings will always enter into the equation. Well at least for me they do, for others I'm not so certain. Decisions have consequences, and those consequences can lead to all sorts of surprising situations.

As you begin your week, look at all the good in your life and build on it. If situations change, then you can decide what to do. Seek out wise council if needed, and accept it when offered. Some decisions require the help of others so take them up on their offer. Believe that you have the ability to make the tough decisions. Believe what is in your heart, and know that the things in our heart will never lead us astray. You can do this!

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Today is a day of new beginnings for you, for me, for everyone. Life has a way of keeping us down with all the stuff we deal with on a daily basis. Often we start out the day with high hopes and enthusiasm and by the end of the work day, we are anything but enthusiastic. Our dreams have been beat down, hopes have been crushed, and we have nothing left to fight with. Does any of this sound familiar? Well if it does, you're not alone. Each day we are faced with constant pressures to be something we are not. Pressure to be everything to everyone. Pressure to conform to a certain image, that you never wanted nor sought out. I wish I could tell you that I am immune to these issues, but I deal with them just like everyone else. The key to all this is simple; don't fall prey to it. The time has come to be who you are, not what others think you should be. Why is it the other people spend so much time trying to get you to change, and yet so little time considering changing themselves. Oh I get it, they are all set, so might as well help others in need. They try to make the whole world see the small sliver in your eye all the while not looking at the huge log protruding out of their eyes.

Now none of us are perfect. We all have faults, and truth be told, we always will. They key is too improve a little each day and tell the rest of the world to back off. Your ability to adapt is going to be different from someone else's ability. There is no cookie cutter which says we all have to handle situations the same way. Hell, the way some people act in different situations scares the daylights out of me. Now I am no angel, I have my moments where if I could throw my fist through a wall or destroy something I would. As lovable as I seem in my writing, I do have a temper and there are times when it gets the better of me. There you have it, I am human after all. No comments from the peanut gallery please. I get angry and sometimes display that anger in an inappropriate manner, so sue me. I would rather admit the obvious verses look like an idiot and deny the truth. I spent so many years burying my feelings and not being allowed to display them, that now I don't want to bottle them up. Please know that I too have issues. When faced with a difficult situation or the possibility of conflict I go straight to my happy place. Well not sure it is all that happy, but it is what I know. I internalize everything, and that often drives people nuts. It's like the time that you want to have this drag out fight with your wife, husband, partner, significant other, and they walk away and refuse to engage in the battle. Well, this only makes you more angry and determined to go for your pound of flesh. I get it, and I am guilty of it as well. I hate conflict so will run from it. I am learning now how to handle it, but it has been a slow process and I still have room for improvement.

I am having to come to grips with how I am and what I want to be. I am not one to take a compliment, and there are many of you out there in the same boat. Someone will tell you you're good looking, and you blow it off. Someone will tell you that you have great abilities and as much as you want to believe them there is something that won't allow it. I have learned that I have to love myself before I can truly love others. If you take only one thing from this blog today know this; you're good enough, faults and everything. Give yourself some credit, and see if it doesn't start to change the way you look at things. We all have gifts and talents, and those gifts are there to give to others. Don't be stingy, others need what you have and you need to be able to give freely to them. One person can change the world, why not believe that you are that one person. Greatness is not what you do, but who you are and what is inside your heart. It is time to release the greatness that resides inside of you and watch others benefit from it.

One final thought for today. When times become difficult, and you know they will be from time to time, know that you have everything you need to be the person you want to be. Yes it may be buried beneath layers of hurt and unhappiness, but it is there, and all it needs is a little help being brought out. That's where friends and loved ones come in. They want the best for you and they are just chomping at the bit to help you out when you are ready to receive that help. Today is a day of new beginnings, take what is yours and know that you are worthy of it. Think about it.........

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Today we remember all those who have served so proudly and with unselfish determination to keep our great country free and safe from those who would harm us. To each veteran of our prior and current wars and conflicts I extend a heart felt thank you. To those who have given what President Lincoln called "The last full measure of devotion" I stand and salute each one of you. Our nation owes you a debt of gratitude that words can not adequately describe.

Having spent a career in the United States Air Force I can tell you that we as a nation have the greatest military in the world. I am and will forever be thankful for the time I was privileged to give to our country. The pride I have for what each Soldier, Sailor, Airman, Marine, and Coast guardsmen do for our nation is indescribable. I remember my time in the Air Force like it was yesterday. We were not serving because we made a lot of money, rather we served to be a part of something that was bigger than ourselves. We served to help complete and successfully accomplish the mission of the United States Air Force. Each member of our military serves for that very purpose today. They stand guard at duty post thousands of miles away from family and loved ones. They sacrifice time away from family and loved ones in order to protect each citizen of this country and offer safety to other nations in need of our strength and determination.

My daughter just posted this on her face book page this morning. "A Veteran is someone, who at one point in their life, wrote a blank check payable to the United States of America for an amount up to, and including, their life. That is beyond honor, and there are way too many people in this country who no longer remember that fact!!" I could not have said it better my self and it has touched my heart. I can not put into words the honor I feel having served our nation, nor the thanks that I have for all the other men and women who have served and are currently serving. God help the individual who utters a negative word about these great men and women. I will personally kick their ass. Strong words, but never ever talk bad about a veteran or someone currently serving in our Armed Forces. Until you have been in their shoes facing death and uncertainty, you have no right to bad mouth them. Each time I hear of the death of one of our military members I am sad and will say a quiet thank you for their sacrifice. I would hope that this would be the feeling of every other American as well. Let me be blunt and if this offends you, well tough. If you can't support those in uniform get the hell out of my country. The sacrafices these great men and women have given, allow you the freedom to think and say anything you want. That is what being an American means. How dare you soil their deaths and service with your moronic attitudes. Suffice it to say you don't want to open your mouth around me and utter these words. The result will nothing short of a total "smack down" being applied to your person. Ok enough on that note.

We must show support and respect to those who serve. We must remember those who have given the ultimate sacrifice to our nation. Failure to show proper respect is a sin, and those who have given will never be forgotten and their deaths will not have been in vain. I stand up for every veteran and I am proud to be in this special group of individuals. I thank them for their service and I will forever be grateful for what they have done for our country. God Bless each veteran this day and may God continue to bless this great nation of ours.

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True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Today is a day to reflect. I was just notified that a dear friend of almost 30 years has been diagnosed with Stage Four Lung Cancer. He is just a year older than me, and it has left me thinking about my own mortality and just how important each day we have is. If I had the power to eradicate this awful decease from the planet I would do it in a heartbeat. Cancer has proved to be the most hideous decease I can think of. It has caused pain, suffering, and torment to so many people. In thinking about my friend I wonder what is going through his mind right now. Has he accomplished all he wanted in life? Has his time left a mark on society and other's lives? Only he can answer that, but I am also thinking the same thoughts this morning. Have I had an impact on the people around me? Have I accomplished all that I have set out to accomplish and can I say with any surety that I have made a difference in the world? I guess the answers to these questions will have to be come from someone else. I would like to think that I have brightened the lives of many and helped them achieve a certain level of success. Whether you have lived for just a short time, or as others have said are living out the sunset of their existence, we all ask this same question. Has my life had meaning and have I made a difference?

I'm not sure we really think about death all that much until we are confronted with it because of a friend or loved one, or even our own selves. I have made a point of letting my family know what my final wishes are. It is never easy to talk about, but better to discuss it now, then leave it to chance. We are all going to have to face this subject sooner or later. Of course it's never easy to think about death, but shoving your head in the sand and refusing to look at the inevitable is stupid at best. What I want each of you to do is look at your life thus far and think about the dreams you still have, and what it would mean to fulfill them before it is your time to depart these earthly bounds.

I want nothing more in life then to help others achieve a level of success that they only see in their dreams. Dreams mind you that should give you a charted course to achieving all that you have in your heart. I hate when I see people who have given up on their dreams. Yes life is difficult at best, and many times we want to give up and say "what's the use". But giving up before you have really put in the effort is sad, and often there is no turning back. Don't give up on what you have deep in your heart. Don't give up on the best part of you. Don't give up simply because you have hit a road block or some idiot has said you can't do something. I am a lot like Captain Kirk of the Star Ship Enterprise, I don't believe in the "No Win" scenario. Yes there are going to be times when our dreams seem out of reach and unattainable. Wish I could say different, but I am a realist, and there are going to be times when we all want to quit and just move on. Fight this with all you have inside and don't give into defeat and loss. If it's worth having it's worth fighting for. Fight with all you have inside and seek out the help of others who are there to help when all seems lost. Fight like there is no tomorrow and with a feeling that the world needs what you have inside your heart and you won't quit until everyone gets a piece of it. Your dreams are what you are! Your destiny is what you were born to do and no one can stop it. It is time to dig in your heels and say no to defeat. It's time to move forward with what you know you are supposed to be doing in life. It's time to show the world that you are special and what you have to offer others is of value.

This one thing I know; only you can be what you were created to be. The piece of the puzzle that only you bring to the table. You might be the one thing missing in some one's life. You can bring answers to questions that others have about the meaning of life. Do I mean to over dramatise the situation? Oh you bet! Drastic times require drastic measures, and the time has come to take that step of faith and move forward in what you are destined to do. I will not stop pushing my message of hope and destiny until everyone has had the opportunity to hear it. Once you get a hold of the hope inside you, you will feel the same way and then your life will be changed forever. It is my hope that you get there quickly for others are in need of the hope that you display. Never give up and never in to doubt and fear. Your tomorrows will be bright and filled with joy and happiness. Think about it........

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Today is a great day!! I took my five cleansing breaths this morning, have my cup of hot tea, and I am now ready to take on the day. I really have no idea what the day has in store for me, but then again not overly concerned about it either. As I have traveled this journey called life I have come to the conclusion that it really doesn't matter what I have planned for any given day, more often than not those plans change and most of the time they change for the better. As the eternal optimist I look at each day as an opportunity to speak into some one's life, and hopefully make a difference for them.

I was taking some time the last few days to do some heavy soul searching, trying to figure out a few things that have been dogging me for the last few weeks. Situation being what it was, I thought it a good time to take the time to get my head on straight and make some tough decisions about my future and what I wanted that future to look like. If you're like me, I hate change. I've come to expect it, but hate it none-the-less. We all have those moments when clarity just seems to be out of our reach. Clarity of mind, clarity of purpose. We tend to get nervous and a little unsettled. I wish we could just get past these moments, but then how fun would life be without them? I for one am prepared to live without that excitement for a while, who else is with me on that one? Anyhow, I was doing some thinking and while I was escaping into my own little world, I had an epiphany. It wasn't one of those earth shaking moments, and yet it was more than just a feeling. That moment in time when you know that something is about to take place but you can't quite put your finger on it. That time when the nervous tinges are ever present and you can't quite figure out what is causing it. Could be the one too many cups of coffee or tea from the morning; or maybe just nervous energy that comes with decision making. Especially when you are not looking forward to making that decision.

My epiphany was this; I am what I am, and it's okay to be who I am. I have faults just like every other person walking the planet. I have good days and bad. I want the best for everyone and absolutely detest people who think they are better then others. I once thought it was a weakness to be so sentimental and emotional. I am tender hearted, but don't think you can walk all over me. If you think that's the case I can assure you that the results you expect will be vastly different then the ones you experience. I can be hard nosed and immovable when I want to be, I think people call that stubbornness!! I get that from my father's side of the family.

We all have to get to a point where we are comfortable in our own skin. I can never truly love someone else until I can love me for me. Trust me it has taken me many many years to get to this point. We all have things about us that we don't like. If you had straight hair growing up you wanted curly. If you were short, you wanted to be tall, thin you wanted to be bigger. We can all find things we want to change, but change for the sake of being something your not, that is a huge waste of time. Like who you are, and what you do. There is something special about you, whether you see it or not. We all have the capacity to be more than we give ourselves credit. It's time to dig deep and determine that what you have to offer has value and there are people out there who need what you have to give.

One last thought; don't settle for second best. Don't give up on a dream or goal simply because you feel you can't accomplish it. Life is never going to be without its ups and downs. Life is going to be filled with setbacks and discouragement. How we handle those setbacks is what creates our character. Do yourself a favor and forget about past failures and look to all the good things that will be springing up from you in the future. The future is bright so put on your sun glasses and head toward the light. In the end you will be on that mountain top proclaiming you made it and grinning from ear to ear. Think about it.....

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

When I grow up I want to…….

If anyone has been around me very long they will tell you that I refuse to act my age, and I never plan on growing up. It’s not that I don’t like getting older, heck I think I look pretty good for my age, I just don’t want to think it’s going to be over before I am ready to go. I have had many changes in careers during my short time on this earth, some of them planned, some not so much. The common thread that has appeared through each of these transitions has been a period of clarity and self-awareness. Now not every change has come at the perfect time, and I like so many others have been overtaken by fear, dread, and uncertainty. I have been lower than a snake’s belly, and I didn’t like that not even a little bit. But change is one of the only constants in the universe so you might as well come to grips with that concept and go along for the ride.

I’ve had many opportunities to speak to people about their future and what they hope to get out of life. Many times these individuals have no idea what to do, where to turn, or what is around the next corner. Guess what ladies and gentlemen, if you are going through this you’re not alone and you’re also in some pretty good company. Life has challenges, no doubt about it, and that’s no understatement. I know that I know there are folks out there who have given it all and still seem to be one step behind the rest of the crowd. Oh they try their best, but their best just doesn’t seem to be good enough. It’s like the kid who has saved and saved and saved for a special toy, and when it comes time to plop the piggy bank down at the cash register he or she is just a few cents short. To him or her it’s the end of the world. This is the time that desire meets lack smack dab, face to face. I would love to say that I have never been in this situation but I have and frankly is sucks. My dear friend there is light at the end of the tunnel. Situations will change and better times are ahead for all, one simply has to believe. If you yourself don’t have enough left to believe, then surround yourself with people who can believe for you.

I had a vision almost twenty years ago to go out and speak to people, young, middle-aged, and seniors about goals and dreams. I sat on this for years and years. Partly because I was afraid and partly because the time didn’t seem quite right. I had always wanted to write a book and I knew exactly what I wanted to write about. Once again I was afraid and I didn’t think the time was right. As things would have it I was faced with a job loss and had no idea what to do next. Remarkably that long lost, almost forgotten desire to write came back to the forefront. Heck I had nothing better to do so I began to write. As a result True Destiny, if life is a journey why go it alone? was born. They say that necessity is the mother of all invention, boy isn’t that the truth. When we get to the end of our rope and still there seems like no solution to our problem we tend to get real creative. Maybe this creativity is a last ditch effort to get something going, but last ditch efforts sometimes pay off the greatest dividends. It's not important how you get somewhere, what's important is that you try. I've said it before; should of, would of, and could of plus $3.19 will get you a large cup of coffee at Dunkin Donuts. Life is full of should, would and could. What we fail to realize from time to time is that going through a troubled time is sometimes the greatest single learning process known to man. Personally I have learned more about myself during a troubled time in my life then at any other time when things were sailing on smoothly without ripple one in the water. Character is developed when we run into difficult situations and are forced to take actions. Actions I might add that are entirely out of ones normal routine, but actions that can create opportunity and insight.

Stayed tuned for the conclusion to this piece. I will be back on tomorrow, same bat time, same bat channel. Ok stupid, but I know there are those out there who remember that saying. So until next time, go after life, and let life put a smile on your face.

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

Did you ever have one of those moments when things that have been unclear and somewhat indiscernible suddenly look as clear as day? It is such a startling event you almost can't believe it's real. Life is funny that way sometimes. Just about the time one is ready to throw in the towel and give up, the answers come in rapid succession almost too fast to grab them all. One of the reasons I love writing this blog is because it is very therapeutic for me. I get answers to many of my questions on a daily basis while I put down on paper, or in this case on the computer, what is in my heart. Now there are days when I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I am a very compassionate soul. I love to help others, but in helping others I also help myself. The last few days have been spent reflecting on what I want to do when I grow up. As I approach middle age, I am guilty of reflecting on the past and wondering where the time went and what have I accomplished.

We all have regrets. Regrets of things we wish we had done, and regrets for things we did and wish we hadn't. If I had a nickel for every time I did something that was wrong I could wipe away half the national debt. Well maybe not half but a large portion of it. There is however one thing I have learned over the years; you can't change what has already happened. I was writing an article the other day for submission into a particular magazine and I wrote about missed opportunities and the desire for a "Do Over". We have all said the words, should of, could of and would of. Attached to those words are normally feelings of remorse for missed opportunities. Opportunities that could have changed the world, or just made our lives a little simpler and less tragic. Even in those times when I realize that I have missed a golden opportunity, I am comforted in the fact that I am in good company. Many many successful people have also missed several opportunities in their life. I dare say that people like Bill Gates and Warren Buffett will confess to have missed it in the past. The difference between success and failure is the decision to move past missed opportunities and not just sit back and reflect on them till the end of time. Reflection is a good thing in moderation. Where the danger lies is when we take that reflection to an unhealthy level and then it becomes torment and torment will destroy a vision or dream quicker than poo poo through a goose.

If imitation is the best form of flattery then I want to imitate those who have gone before me and moved past their failures and grabbed life by the neck and not let go. I have said this so many times before; if it's worth having it's worth working for. I have had so many changes in my life over the last few years. I have seen careers come and go, fortunes won and lost. I have been to the mountain top and also to the lowest part of the valley. Through it all I have never lost my desire to reach out to others in hopes of getting them to see what is inside of them and bring in forth so others can benefit from their gifting. I think we all reach a point in our life when we decide that life is not just about "me" but about "others". What are the dreams and desires of my friends, family , and loved ones, and what can I do to help them achieve each of them. I have lived for a period of time with the mentality of take, take, take. I guess now as I have matured I want to give, give, give.

I have spoken to close friends and loved ones and discussed with them what I want when I leave these earthly bonds. Now I don't plan on leaving anytime soon, but one never knows. I know that my company will be worth quite a bit of money when I die, and I also know that I will accomplish great things before I depart this world. However, I don't want to be remembered for the amount of money I leave behind, or the various positions that I may have held in my lifetime. Rather I want to be remembered as being just a friend. A person who gave away so others could reach a level of success they only dreamt of. A friend who would give away his last dollar to someone in need. A friend who cared about people so much that his needs were second place to theirs. I don't want this because I am great I want this because that is who I am.

If you were ever to come to my home you will hear my stereo on when you walk in. I have a play list that plays virtually 24/7. Well that is except during the Christmas season when the good old Christmas music plays instead. But this play list is something that I want to listen to because it keeps my vision in front of me. When I hear each song I reflect on other people and how I can help them get to the place they were destined to be. You will never pull my vision from me. I will carry it with me until I take my final breath, and I will work toward it until that time also. I care for humanity, and humanity needs what I have inside. But humanity needs what is inside of you also. So let's pull it out of you and set others on their path to success and happiness.

Let me leave you with this parting though; you have a destiny! ! You may not feel like you have one, you may never want to find out what it is, but a destiny does reside inside each of you. You may fear it, run from it, bury it, discount it, but it still will be there. You need to embrace it for all it's worth and run with it. Destiny is who you are, not what you do. If you want joy and happiness in your life, find your destiny, it is what completes us. Think about it........

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

It's a cold November morning here in Maine. Cloudy and rain is sure to start any minute. The year is coming to an end and so begins the process of looking back at the current year and wondering what the next year has in store for us. This is a process that most of us undertake at the same time each year, with the same results. We often wonder where the time has gone and what did we do with the time we had. Now there have been good days throughout the past year and there have also been bad days. For many the good out numbered the bad, but for others they can't say the same thing. I think my year was right down the middle, at least that is my perception right now. As I look back at my year I am filled with joy and happiness for one reason and one reason only; I'm still here. It doesn't matter if everything went right or if some things went wrong. It doesn't matter if I accomplished everything I set out to do or if there is still some unfinished business. It just doesn't matter!

What matters most is that I look forward to the next year because I still have unfulfilled dreams and desires. I am so thankful that I get to do it all over again. I am alive and it doesn't get much better than that. You to are alive and there's nothing that can top that. You can take it one day at a time and see where your journey takes you. It is only when we stop moving forward that we get down and start wanting to quit. No one ever said life was easy, and if they did I would wonder what other planet they came from. We are never going to go through life without the constant ups and downs. Life just isn't that simple. Shy of locking yourself up in a 12 by 12 room and never coming out, we are all going to be faced with difficulties and challenges in our daily lives. Why? Because we choose to live, and we choose to move forward each day and not just bury our heads in the sand and give up.

I am such a believer in this thing I call "True Destiny". Now call me crazy, as many often do, but I can't and won't give up on my dreams, and there is nothing I won't say or do to get you not to give up on yours. Ladies and Gentlemen why in the world would you go through all the stuff we are faced with each day, and we all know it is pretty lousy at times, and not want the good stuff at the end? If you have an unfulfilled dream in your life why aren't you going after it? Oh let me guess, some jerk somewhere said it was a stupid dream? No wait, another idiot said you could never get it done? Oh yea, it wasn't in the cards, that's what your friend said to you. Well friends who say things like that shouldn't be your friends. You need to surround yourself with people who will speak life to each situation and be there to pick you up if you fall. We are all going to fail from time to time. Friends are there to comfort you when you fall and tell you it will be all right. Now I don't want my friends to sugar coat everything. I want them to be truthful to me. If I am going down the wrong path please tell me. If I have been blinded by greed or conceit, tell me. Trust me I am not motivated by greed, those who know me know this to be true. I would give away my last dollar to someone in need.

As we begin to close out 2010 and look toward 2011 do me a favor; don't quit! Each of us has to determine the destiny that resides in each of us. Go after that destiny with everything you have. You have heard me say this quote numerous times in the past but I shall use it once more. "I would rather attempt something great and fail then attempt nothing at all and succeed." There are no stupid dreams when they are your dreams. Dreams come from the heart and the heart can only speak truth. Start digging down deep and let's find your destiny. I will take this walk with you and together we will put you on your path to happiness and joy as you determine your destiny.

True Destiny; If life is a Journey, Why Go it Alone?

As this nation pauses to catch it's collective breath after an arduous election cycle, maybe it's time to take a step back and see what has happened and what it may mean to everyone. Now I'm not talking about what party did what, or who won this or won that. I'm talking about the direction that you want to go in, and how it effects the rest of us. A party or group of people has always, and will always start with one person, one thought, one dream. There are no situations that just happen. Everything is based on cause and effect. If someone gets up on the wrong side of the bed in the morning, chances are their day is already ruined and no amount of exhorting from someone else is going to change that. On the other side of the coin, if one gets up with a smile on their face, hope in their heart and a belief that things will work out for the best each day, chances are it's going to be a good day.

I have long held the belief that our best days are still ahead of us. Call it blind faith, eternal optimism, what ever you like, but I can't look at the day in front of me and see anything but sunshine and happiness. Most people who Know me will tell you that I very rarely take things too seriously. As I have said so many times in the past life is too short to be taken seriously. Now there are serious situations around each of us, but those situations are temporal at best and they will change as sure as the seasons of the year. What we have to do is look at situations and see them for what they are; opportunities. Opportunities to conquer our fears, move forward with a project, or simply opportunities for growth and learning. I know that life can throw curve balls at each of us from time to time. No one can expect to go through life untouched by some event, good, bad, or indifferent. What we have to do is look at each situation and see it for what it is; a chance to prove who you are and what you can do. I believe as the old saying goes that neccessity is the mother of invention. How many great ideas have come out of a period in our lives when things may not have been going great. People are always resistant to change, and quite often change will only come about when we realize that we are so uncomfortable in our current situation that we need to get out of it and thereby we make changes to do just that. Maybe you hate your current job for it lacks fulfillment and it is sucking the life right out of you. Until you get to the point where you are sick and tired of being sick and tire you are not going to change anything. But cross that line that has been written in the sand and change is all you can think about from that moment on.

I love talking with people and trying to help them determine what makes them tick. What is it that they have in their heart to do and how can I help them do it. What is it that causes that smile to be on their face when they get out of bed in the morning and what is it that helps them sleep well at night. These are the things that tell you who you are and what you should be doing with your life. Should of, would of, and could of are sayings that can kick us in the backside and then we question our own abilities. Let's face it, we all have dreams and aspirations. Maybe it's time that we look at them and take that step of faith toward them. It is only in doing that we truly will feel as though we have added to society. After all, it's not so much who I am that counts, but what I do that makes a difference. I desire to make a difference in people's lives. To help them see who they are and what they can do. If you can move ahead with the dreams you have, you just might help others achieve their dreams in the process. All in all that is not a bad day. Think about it.............